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Alyson Buckman's avatar

John Oliver did a whole exposee on nursing homes. It was horrifying. My mom’s clothes, wallet, sheets, and comforter all disappeared at her nursing home.

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Victoria Navarra's avatar

Also, I can't get over her COMFORTER "disappearing." And her sheets! WTF.

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Alyson Buckman's avatar

For Christmas, I had gotten her a very pretty matching sheets and comforter set with lilacs because those were her favorite. So it was a nice set.

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Victoria Navarra's avatar

That’s such a good gift!!! Ugh I’m so sorry it got stolen!!!!!

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Victoria Navarra's avatar

Yep. She had her laptop stolen in a skilled nursing facility and they didn't care. I've never been met with a more apathetic response. It was awful. So many of these facilities are just terrible.

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Alyson Buckman's avatar

They told us to put her name and all her clothes so she wouldn’t lose them. After she began losing them I began writing her name in huge magic marker all over her clothes, very visible. Still all of those clothes disappeared.

I’m sorry to hear about your mom‘s laptop.

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Barry's avatar

This needs to be seen EVERYWHERE! Love to you and your mom. ❤️

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Victoria Navarra's avatar

Thanks!! ❤️ I’m so frustrated!! The corporate office never even called me back. It’s just unconscionable how they can’t even listen to the problems at their facility!

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Debbi's avatar

Shouldn't this also be an op-ed in a major newspaper or 10? You know how much I wish it were different and better and more manageable for you. 💙

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Victoria Navarra's avatar

I wouldn't say no to that! I think everyone needs to know how ridiculous this is. The poor social worker at the hospital kept calling me to say that she couldn't get in touch with anyone at the facility. I was SO MAD today.

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Debbi's avatar

Clean it up and submit it now. While you're angry.

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Victoria Navarra's avatar

I’ll see what I can whip up!

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Victoria Navarra's avatar

I'd have to write something new! Substack counts as a publication, and they'd want something fresh.

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Debbi's avatar

It's all relevant and wouldn't take much reworking. So important to magnify.

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Tuli Together's avatar

This is a very moving piece - thank you so much for sharing. I'm tremendously sorry to hear about your mom, and I absolutely agree with you. The part where you describe having to spend your mom's remaining time advocating and calling instead of what you truly want to be doing was devastating. Sending love.

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Victoria Navarra's avatar

Thank you so much!! <3 <3

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